Value of Myself

Written By: Vinny B

1. You constantly make plans and allow other people to change your mind.

If you’re constantly making plans and there constantly falling through due to other people, that is a major sign that your value is being dictated by others. It’s a sure indication that people don’t want to accommodate certain aspirations that you have and instead of you moving on without them, you cater to them. It’s ok to include others but sometimes you have to do what you want on your own. Don’t let others determine how you will live your life.

2. You’re following every single trend and putting what you really like on the back burner.

Are you the type of person who buys the clothes off the mannequin? If so, you may be the person who is living according to the world. A large part of society doesn’t live according to how they want but in a way that doesn’t make them stand out from the crowd. Instead of fitting in with the crowd, do what makes your feel good. Don’t place your value with being a part of the in-crowd.

3. Get discouraged when someone doesn’t like your new idea.

Being discouraged if someone doesn’t like your idea is true sign that you’re placing your value in others. It’s fine to be disappointed but if someone doesn’t like your idea accept it and move on. If you really believe in an idea keep pushing forward no matter who approves. Some of the most successful people have had their greatest ideas shot down multiple times but moved forward with the idea despite opposition. Don’t let your idea be the next big one that never happened because you let a cynical person dissuade you.

4. Buy things for the sole purpose of impressing others.

It’s a great feeling to get a new car or buy a new house. Those are purchases that indicate that you’re at an improved financial status. The problem occurs when people make such purchases to impress other people. The only problem is that even if people are initially impressed those things will eventually get old and then you will have to actually enjoy them for yourself. Some people are constantly try to make new purchases to constantly impress others. Make purchases for yourself not others because they won’t be helping you with the payment.

5. When you’re always comparing yourself to others.

Another sign that you are letting others determine your value is that you’re constantly comparing. When you compare yourself, that person is dictating how you move. If that person is moving casually through life then you’re relaxing. When that person is making progress in certain areas in their life, you’re going to try to match them. Eventually what happens is you start to live someone else’s life instead of your own.

6. When you can’t be happy for someone else.

Someone who knows their value can find ways to be happy for anyone. The people who find it hard to be happy for others are usually very unhappy themselves. If you find yourself being unhappy when someone else around you succeeds, it’s time for you to start repairing how you feel about your value.

7. When people are able to control your emotions.

If people are easily able to trigger certain emotions from you, this means that your giving those people power over you. When you give people power over you that means that’s where you find your value. When you recognize your value, people won’t be able to get under your skin, resulting in less emotional responses.